In this colossal world filled with millions of people, each of us strikes a chord with only a few people. We call them friends. Like food water and air, friendships and relationships form the ultimatum of human existence. From childhood to adulthood we have come across a gazillion number of friends. As we call ourselves Millenials, how has this era changed the idea of friendship?
From secret-keeping to dating advice to work laughs, we have found our way out in every possible situation with the help of our friends. As kids we enjoyed the company of our parents.
Schooling and education opened doors to meet new people and engage in the basics of socializing. We innocently chose our ‘team’ with whom we can make sandcastles. Teenage brought in a lot of havoc and needed unraveling adulthood mysteries earlier enough. And sometimes those teen friendships lasted for a lifetime. Early adulthood calls for a lot of unsettling relationships and new experiences which later might or might not settle to deeper connections. This was probably the friendship graph of an average person a few years back until technology stormed over our lives.
Times have changed. Minds have been polluted. Perspectives have taken various shapes.
The requirement of physicality in socializing has dropped to significantly lower levels, a blessing at the moment. The lions share of most of our days is spent on being connected to our groups. Being online also gives us the liberty of meeting new people within the comfort of our homes with less awkwardness, especially for the introverts. The anonymity being used in full throttle makes it one of the most bizarre things of the millennial era. Some of them do end up on positive notes some others don’t. And we move on.
Hence the modern world has opened doors to a lot of shallow relationships and very few deep-rooted affairs. It might feel odd to gauge the emotion of friendship. But since we have been making too many ‘friends’ lately both online and offline, some pointers might help.
Friends with benefits
Often we meet people and get acquainted with them for a purpose and might want to take help from the other. When the bond continue to longer conversations on a personal level and still it remains stagnant by being a one-sided help center, you could reconsider this companionship. Friendship always calls for mutual exchange of benefits
Emotional draining
Sometimes we end up devoting ourselves extensively in a relationship. And this often tends to create a void in our worlds by giving out too much. Striking a balance and evaluating oneself can help us identify and communicate better to bring forth meaningful rapport.
Holding each other up
True companions are the biggest cheerleaders. The tiniest efforts never go unnoticed or under-appreciated by good friends. If that is not the case, your ‘circle’ is not yours anymore.
Hate -#1 in trending
Engaging in taunting conversations and the borderline compulsion to look on the darker side of oneself is nothing but a sign of a toxic relationship. Moreover, such spaces do not provide us with practical solutions to any flaw but in turn, will only leave us hanging in despair.
Cloud 9
People who always keeps us in an extreme state of ecstasy by preposterous praises are to be watched out for. In such happenings, we might miss out on forthcoming obstacles and probable chances of betterment in our duties.
Setting free
Nothing beats the feeling of being in the company of someone with whom we can be our truest selves. Stronger bonds are made where there is zero room for judgments. The exchange of highs and lows of each other cuts out the possibility of a pretentious relationship.
Time frames also do not play a significant role in weighing the relationship at times. Regardless of how long we have been friends with someone, if that connection turns to eerie awkwardness after a point, it just means that the bond has come to an end. And setting each other free would be fruitful than being in a mental turmoil.
Ultimately any relationship should be aimed at exchanging positive energies and for staging healthy discussions. The people we associate with have a huge impact on molding each one of our lives. Healthier companionships bring out the best in us or help in the betterment.
The foundation of any true relationship starts by being friends first. The power to keep that alive even when we hit rock bottom at everything else is a healing in itself.
So stop and rewind to think who needs to stay and who doesn’t for that might play a key role in turning your world upside down!
Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant .— Socrates
